No fair. Do you remember saying that? I am afraid it is coming to my house soon.
My son is the oldest. He is experiencing everything first. Independence. It is stressing me out to no end, but I do realize he is growing up and it is time for a little freedom whether I like it or not.
I have loosened the reigns a little in the last year. He IS going into 8th grade next year. I have to remind myself of that every now and then. I have let him leave our cul-de-sac on his bike (with others). I have let him hang out with his friends at our town events (we live in a small town). I have let him go with his friends in the mall (when I am there shopping). Yesterday, at the park (we were there all day for a family picnic), I let him wander with his 16-year-old cousin. Okay, so this made me a little crazy. The park is huge. I made him check in now and then and made sure he had his phone on him. But, I kept reminding myself it is time…and he has proven himself responsibly. Not to mention my son looks a lot older than he really is.
Of course this got me thinking. My daughter is only 20 months younger than him. What will I do next year if she starts asking for this new found freedom my son has? It may sound sexist or just plain wrong, but I do not think I will let her do the things my son is doing. Wander the park? No way! My husbands says, forget it! I just think of all those stories about girls being abducted in parks never to be found again. Sure, boys are abducted too. This is where my problem lays.
Is it a double standard? Will I suddenly feel ‘okay’ with my daughter doing these things when the time comes? Is it really only because she is a girl? How wrong is that! Or I wonder if my son had a different type of personality…if I would even allow him to do these things now. In think it has a lot to do with the individual personality and responsibility of each kid, but where does fair come in?
Do you think it is wrong to worry differently about boys and girls and freedom? Is this so sexist to think this way?
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