Comments on: Do you make your kids kiss the relatives? http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/ Thoughts & Opinions about living life and parenting in today's world Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:44:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bree Anderson http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1269 Bree Anderson Sat, 10 Jul 2010 00:55:05 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1269 I like your blog layout, I guess I haven't been by in a while, same of me! I miss ya'! I'll have to add you to my blogroll so that doesn't happen again. As far as this, I think there is a need to teach a child how to be polite, how to greet and say goodbye but I'd never push one of my kids to go beyond a wave. Now that my child is getting a little older (4) it's a different story. She was given time and now she'll hug/kiss those freely- those she doesn't' I certainly don't push it- just can't these days. I like your blog layout, I guess I haven’t been by in a while, same of me! I miss ya’! I’ll have to add you to my blogroll so that doesn’t happen again.
As far as this, I think there is a need to teach a child how to be polite, how to greet and say goodbye but I’d never push one of my kids to go beyond a wave. Now that my child is getting a little older (4) it’s a different story. She was given time and now she’ll hug/kiss those freely- those she doesn’t’ I certainly don’t push it- just can’t these days.

]]> By: Cameron http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1196 Cameron Sun, 27 Jun 2010 13:05:04 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1196 I definitely won't be making my kid's kiss the relatives, but I will always offer it as a choice. I just want to teach my children that it is okay for them to say no. In an obedience standpoint, if I tell them to do something, I will expect it to be done. But if I ask, they are free to choose. "Would you like to kiss grandma goodbye?" If they say "No" then that's okay. They need to have control over their own physical bodies & over their own decisions. So for us, I think phrasing it as a question is the way we will do it. .-= Cameron´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.ingenuemom.com/2010/06/how-to-efficiently-read-blogs.html" rel="nofollow">How to Efficiently Read Blogs</a> =-. I definitely won’t be making my kid’s kiss the relatives, but I will always offer it as a choice. I just want to teach my children that it is okay for them to say no. In an obedience standpoint, if I tell them to do something, I will expect it to be done. But if I ask, they are free to choose. “Would you like to kiss grandma goodbye?” If they say “No” then that’s okay. They need to have control over their own physical bodies & over their own decisions. So for us, I think phrasing it as a question is the way we will do it.
.-= Cameron´s last blog ..How to Efficiently Read Blogs =-.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1183 Kelly Fri, 25 Jun 2010 04:52:42 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1183 We ask the kids to say goodbye to relatives when they leave, but we don't require that they kiss or hug. My in laws are huge huggers, but I laid down the law with them from the beginning -- hugging is extremely intimate to me and I don't do it with anyone but my husband and children. No exceptions. I won't hold my children to different standards. However, if they don't acknowledge the relative, they will suffer a consequence. For us, acknowledging is what that hug/kiss is about. And so often they will wave from the door even after they've said goodbye just because we make goodbyes such a big and non-confrontational event. .-= Kelly´s last blog ..<a href="http://themillermix.blogspot.com/2010/06/girl-and-movie.html" rel="nofollow">A girl and a movie</a> =-. We ask the kids to say goodbye to relatives when they leave, but we don’t require that they kiss or hug. My in laws are huge huggers, but I laid down the law with them from the beginning — hugging is extremely intimate to me and I don’t do it with anyone but my husband and children. No exceptions. I won’t hold my children to different standards.

However, if they don’t acknowledge the relative, they will suffer a consequence. For us, acknowledging is what that hug/kiss is about. And so often they will wave from the door even after they’ve said goodbye just because we make goodbyes such a big and non-confrontational event.
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..A girl and a movie =-.

]]> By: mommymommymommy http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1181 mommymommymommy Thu, 24 Jun 2010 23:41:12 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1181 Nope. Never have, never will. .-= mommymommymommy´s last blog ..<a href="http://keepitsimplesister-mommymommymommy.blogspot.com/2010/06/coming-back-from-vacation.html" rel="nofollow">Coming Back from Vacation</a> =-. Nope. Never have, never will.
.-= mommymommymommy´s last blog ..Coming Back from Vacation =-.

]]> By: Niki http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1180 Niki Thu, 24 Jun 2010 21:33:20 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1180 My kids have always hugged and kissed their grandma (my mom; the only relative they see on a regular basis) good-bye on their own since they were very little. I can't remember if we told them to do that to start with when they were toddlers, or if they just do it on their own because Grandma has always hugged and kissed them good-bye. .-= Niki´s last blog ..<a href="http://1seakell.blogspot.com/2010/06/family.html" rel="nofollow">Family</a> =-. My kids have always hugged and kissed their grandma (my mom; the only relative they see on a regular basis) good-bye on their own since they were very little. I can’t remember if we told them to do that to start with when they were toddlers, or if they just do it on their own because Grandma has always hugged and kissed them good-bye.
.-= Niki´s last blog ..Family =-.

]]> By: J. http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1179 J. Thu, 24 Jun 2010 19:44:02 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1179 I think Gavin is spot on with that. I'll keep it in mind the next time my husband tries for force one of the kids to say "Hi" to some random person, when they obviously don't want to. I'll check the book out as well. Thanks for posting about it. .-= J.´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.jisabird.com/2010/06/southern-california-water-parks-have.html" rel="nofollow">Southern California Water Parks: Have you been yet?</a> =-. I think Gavin is spot on with that. I’ll keep it in mind the next time my husband tries for force one of the kids to say “Hi” to some random person, when they obviously don’t want to. I’ll check the book out as well. Thanks for posting about it.
.-= J.´s last blog ..Southern California Water Parks: Have you been yet? =-.

]]> By: Nicole @ Help! Mama Remote... http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1178 Nicole @ Help! Mama Remote... Thu, 24 Jun 2010 15:22:16 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1178 I agree that both sides should be weighed according to the family. My kids only hug those immediate relatives. I'm cautious as well. NO SITTING ON LAPS!!!! I agree that both sides should be weighed according to the family. My kids only hug those immediate relatives. I’m cautious as well. NO SITTING ON LAPS!!!!

]]> By: Melissa (Dr. Mom) http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1177 Melissa (Dr. Mom) Thu, 24 Jun 2010 06:19:45 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1177 I encourage my kids to hug their close relatives like Grandma and Grandpa and cousins but not necessarily kisses. If they look uncomfortable, I definitely don't push the issue. I think hugs are important with close relatives but I do think it's important to respect childrens' boundaries. Another good topic :) .-= Melissa (Dr. Mom)´s last blog ..<a href="http://mommamd4two.blogspot.com/2010/06/sometimes-dad-knows-best.html" rel="nofollow">Sometimes, Dad Knows Best</a> =-. I encourage my kids to hug their close relatives like Grandma and Grandpa and cousins but not necessarily kisses. If they look uncomfortable, I definitely don’t push the issue. I think hugs are important with close relatives but I do think it’s important to respect childrens’ boundaries. Another good topic :)
.-= Melissa (Dr. Mom)´s last blog ..Sometimes, Dad Knows Best =-.

]]> By: Hailey http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1176 Hailey Thu, 24 Jun 2010 02:26:00 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1176 Hugs would suffice. I believe they are necessary to be closer with relatives and to be more warm with them. Not so sure with kisses, but if possible then yes. .-= Hailey´s last blog ..Middle Children – Handling Them =-. Hugs would suffice. I believe they are necessary to be closer with relatives and to be more warm with them. Not so sure with kisses, but if possible then yes.
.-= Hailey´s last blog ..Middle Children – Handling Them =-.

]]> By: missy http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/06/do-you-make-your-kids-kiss-the-relatives/comment-page-1/#comment-1175 missy Thu, 24 Jun 2010 02:03:27 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=119#comment-1175 I do not make my kids kiss relatives - I don't think it's ok. Hugs for very close ones - like my parents, Husband's parents. No one else. .-= missy´s last blog ..<a href="http://gifts2love.blogspot.com/2010/06/important-observations-and-questions.html" rel="nofollow">Important Observations and Questions</a> =-. I do not make my kids kiss relatives – I don’t think it’s ok. Hugs for very close ones – like my parents, Husband’s parents. No one else.
.-= missy´s last blog ..Important Observations and Questions =-.

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