We all know how mean kids can be. They can be downright degrading and make other kids feel like dirt. We try to teach our kids not to tease and to treat others the way they would want to be treated themselves. But, can teasing be a good thing if we are the ones doing the teasing?
Now I am not talking degrading your children, but what about having that sort of way where you can tease your kids so that they ‘learn’ to deal with people and have a handle on it rather than just wanting to go hide in a corner. Sort of like constructive criticism, you know? Call it maybe, constructive teasing?
Do some kids today not know how to deal with other kids or people because they are so sheltered and coddled? Should we be teaching them to deal with things more instead of just teaching the teasers to stop?
On the other hand can constructive teasing make kids feel more self conscious about themselves? Could it make them more likely to tease others?
We have brought our kids up in a way where we do I guess, tease. I am not saying that we tease our kids in a way that they are being ridiculed, but it is in a somewhat fun way (if that makes sense). You know, teach them that it is okay to ‘laugh at themselves’. I do think that so far my son (who is now almost 13) knows how to handle people and has a tendency not to let things bother him. It was a little challenging at first to make him understand that not all kids will be on the same wave length. We would find when he was small that he would ‘friendly’ tease not meaning any harm (because this is what he was used to), but other kids were not and took it in a negative way causing a problem. As he got older he started to understand this more (thankfully). He has though (so far) grown up to be known as an easy going, friendly sort of kid.
I do have to say though that this may all differ with personality. And I am not sure that it would work with all kids…as we know, they are all so different.
What do you think? Do you feel that a little teasing can help a child or hurt them?