Comments on: Respect – when the adult is the problem

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 04:49:15 +0000

While it’s really hard not to make a judgment call when someone does something that slights or hurts my kids, I try to never assign right/wrong labels. So in the situation you described, I wouldn’t say anything until my kid brought it up. Then I’d say, “Does it matter what he did or does it matter what you did?” One of my main parenting mantras is that we can only control our own actions. That means we behave honorably and with good intentions even when others don’t. It also means that we don’t decide whether what someone did was right or wrong, we only know that it is or isn’t how we choose to be. Hope that makes sense.
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By: Ellen Marie "Mama" Pike

Ellen Marie "Mama" Pike — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 00:44:19 +0000

It is hurtful to our children when an adult treats them rudely AND it tugs at our heartstrings. I have enjoyed all the comments above. We can’t control other people’s behavior but can strive to teach our children to respect others and be a good example to them.

My sister shared some thoughts on my blog this week about being emotionally generous to others. If you would like to check it out I think her message compliments this discussion. The post is called “Emotional Generosity”.
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By: Melissa @ Completely Eclipsed

Melissa @ Completely Eclipsed — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 00:40:16 +0000

Some adults are just like that. I’m a teacher and I’ve seen colleagues behave in ways that worse than their students. How can we expect our students or our children to behave in ways if we’re not modeling that behavior?

Great post. Stopping by from SITS

By: CherylT

CherylT — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:27:36 +0000

Definitely due to poor parenting and lowered standards of etiquette in American society. I think the ’60s was such a break with the past that a lot of etiquette was lost in translation. Tell your son that we are not responsible for the way others behave, only the way we ourselves behave and that he only gets one chance to make a good first impression.
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By: Dalia

Dalia — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:54:20 +0000

Definitely. Tell them to be the bigger one. The more mature one and not act like them.

By: Dalia

Dalia — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:52:38 +0000

Right, when the kids are the more mature ones, there is a problem.

By: Dalia

Dalia — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:52:06 +0000

Exactly! That is not the adult I want my kid to grow up to be!

By: Dalia

Dalia — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:51:29 +0000

Very true…definitely know the situation before you judge.

By: Dalia

Dalia — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:49:34 +0000

Exactly!

By: Dalia

Dalia — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:48:59 +0000

Thanks Cameron, Glad you stopped by!