Comments on: Teens and jealousy – is it changing? http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/ Thoughts & Opinions about living life and parenting in today's world Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:44:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Christin@Pregnant with power tools http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1314 Christin@Pregnant with power tools Sun, 18 Jul 2010 02:19:38 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1314 I couldn't say, luckily my kids are years away from that problem :) I never dated in HS, but talking ~ cheating must just have to do with being so young, right? .-= Christin@Pregnant with power tools´s last blog ..<a href="http://pregnantpower.blogspot.com/2010/06/vintage-car-bedroom-can-pendant-lights.html" rel="nofollow">Vintage Car Bedroom- Can Pendant Lights</a> =-. I couldn’t say, luckily my kids are years away from that problem :) I never dated in HS, but talking ~ cheating must just have to do with being so young, right?
.-= Christin@Pregnant with power tools´s last blog ..Vintage Car Bedroom- Can Pendant Lights =-.

]]> By: samantha http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1313 samantha Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:40:18 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1313 Kids are maturing at such a rapid speed these days... 12 is the new 15, and its scary... I'm afraid that we're going to see a completely different generation come out of this, a least respectful, and morally abrupt generation. maybe they'll grow out of it, but the amount of knowledge, and explicit knowledge these kids are being exposed too... ... on the other hand, the current programs directed to our child audience seemly has no value or lessons to their stories! They're all bubble gum, toffee cookies, and everything will be ok. So on one hand they have this really lucid entertainment, and really harsh information coming from peers and the internet... yep. :S .-= samantha´s last blog ..The Artist’s Marketing Plan - Get Your Work EXPOSED! =-. Kids are maturing at such a rapid speed these days… 12 is the new 15, and its scary…

I’m afraid that we’re going to see a completely different generation come out of this, a least respectful, and morally abrupt generation.

maybe they’ll grow out of it, but the amount of knowledge, and explicit knowledge these kids are being exposed too…

… on the other hand, the current programs directed to our child audience seemly has no value or lessons to their stories! They’re all bubble gum, toffee cookies, and everything will be ok.

So on one hand they have this really lucid entertainment, and really harsh information coming from peers and the internet…

yep. :S
.-= samantha´s last blog ..The Artist’s Marketing Plan – Get Your Work EXPOSED! =-.

]]> By: Delilah http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1312 Delilah Sat, 17 Jul 2010 14:58:10 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1312 Facebook and social media have changed dating forever in my opinion. Dating and even friendships are undergoing a complete redefinition. I'm not crazy about it, but it's true.. at least in my world. Stopping by from the LBS tea party. Like your blog! Facebook and social media have changed dating forever in my opinion. Dating and even friendships are undergoing a complete redefinition. I’m not crazy about it, but it’s true.. at least in my world.

Stopping by from the LBS tea party. Like your blog!

]]> By: Nicole @ Help! Mama Remote... http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1311 Nicole @ Help! Mama Remote... Sat, 17 Jul 2010 01:43:58 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1311 I agree to some degree but I think we don't see what the girlfriend might say to the boyfriend. also, I think it might make our kids tolerate non sense. I agree to some degree but I think we don’t see what the girlfriend might say to the boyfriend. also, I think it might make our kids tolerate non sense.

]]> By: Holly Hamann http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1310 Holly Hamann Fri, 16 Jul 2010 18:33:36 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1310 I have three teenage boys (13, 14, and 14) and so far, they don't seem to have that many friends that are girls. Every so often, one of them will announce that they have a girlfriend but I think most of that communication all happens by text. They don't go to co-ed activities or gatherings at their friends' houses - they are mostly still into being with their guy friends. I bet that will change soon, though, especially since two of them will start high school in the Fall. I'm looking forward to following this conversation and connecting with other moms of teens. New visitor to your blog, BTW - love it! Holly I have three teenage boys (13, 14, and 14) and so far, they don’t seem to have that many friends that are girls. Every so often, one of them will announce that they have a girlfriend but I think most of that communication all happens by text. They don’t go to co-ed activities or gatherings at their friends’ houses – they are mostly still into being with their guy friends. I bet that will change soon, though, especially since two of them will start high school in the Fall. I’m looking forward to following this conversation and connecting with other moms of teens.

New visitor to your blog, BTW – love it!

Holly

]]> By: Connie @ Sogni e Sorrisi http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1309 Connie @ Sogni e Sorrisi Fri, 16 Jul 2010 02:44:15 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1309 I think it's way easier for kids to connect these days than it was in the pre-cell phone, pre-Facebook, pre-Twitter days--and much harder for parents to keep an eye on. I can't see how that's a good thing. I think it’s way easier for kids to connect these days than it was in the pre-cell phone, pre-Facebook, pre-Twitter days–and much harder for parents to keep an eye on. I can’t see how that’s a good thing.

]]> By: Swati Bharteey http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1308 Swati Bharteey Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:42:41 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1308 I think it's too much too fast - all of the social media allows kids to be much bolder than they may otherwise be if they only spoke to the opposite sex in person...and further, it's too bad to miss out on those precious conversations when you feel uncertain and self conscious and butterflies...because it's not the same online....any chance it'll disappear by the time my daughter turns into a teen :-)? It could happen. Swati .-= Swati Bharteey´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheSingleMothersChronicles/~3/sJl_I55ojWU/" rel="nofollow">Humping- An Eight-Year-Old’s Inquisition</a> =-. I think it’s too much too fast – all of the social media allows kids to be much bolder than they may otherwise be if they only spoke to the opposite sex in person…and further, it’s too bad to miss out on those precious conversations when you feel uncertain and self conscious and butterflies…because it’s not the same online….any chance it’ll disappear by the time my daughter turns into a teen :-) ? It could happen.

Swati
.-= Swati Bharteey´s last blog ..Humping- An Eight-Year-Old’s Inquisition =-.

]]> By: Angelia Sims http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1307 Angelia Sims Thu, 15 Jul 2010 16:20:07 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1307 This is very interesting. I've wondered the same thing. My daughter was exclusive for a year with the same boy, but she texted and chatted with many boys, who weren't boyfriends, just friends. I found it ODD. Apparently that is the way of the teen world. I'm not going to knock it as bad - yet. Just very curious how it will play out. Maybe it will keep them from marrying so quickly out of high school. Find themselves first and experience life before settling down. Love your take on the text being virtual notes. So true! Sydney texted the wrong thing to the wrong person a few times. I guess that is like the person you were talking about finding your note on the ground. Ooops. :-) .-= Angelia Sims´s last blog ..<a href="http://youthinkyoucanblog.wordpress.com/2010/07/15/my-blog-reviewed/" rel="nofollow">My Blog Reviewed</a> =-. This is very interesting. I’ve wondered the same thing. My daughter was exclusive for a year with the same boy, but she texted and chatted with many boys, who weren’t boyfriends, just friends.

I found it ODD. Apparently that is the way of the teen world. I’m not going to knock it as bad – yet. Just very curious how it will play out. Maybe it will keep them from marrying so quickly out of high school. Find themselves first and experience life before settling down.

Love your take on the text being virtual notes. So true!

Sydney texted the wrong thing to the wrong person a few times. I guess that is like the person you were talking about finding your note on the ground. Ooops. :-)
.-= Angelia Sims´s last blog ..My Blog Reviewed =-.

]]> By: Momma Drama http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1306 Momma Drama Thu, 15 Jul 2010 15:06:02 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1306 I think things have changed. Not only with teenager, but also young adults. Hubby and I are very old fashioned about this - we don't have friends of the opposite sex. None. But I think there are a lot of 20 and 30 somethings out there that do! I don't think it's a bad thing either, just not for us. I think things have changed. Not only with teenager, but also young adults. Hubby and I are very old fashioned about this – we don’t have friends of the opposite sex. None. But I think there are a lot of 20 and 30 somethings out there that do! I don’t think it’s a bad thing either, just not for us.

]]> By: JoJo http://www.generationxmomblog.com/2010/07/teens-and-jealousy-is-it-changing/comment-page-1/#comment-1304 JoJo Thu, 15 Jul 2010 02:00:46 +0000 http://www.generationxmomblog.com/?p=124#comment-1304 I love your discussions! Personally I think jealously is an internal issue that is dependent on a combination of the person's genetic makeup and experience. In highchool, I was constantly jealous of anyone who so much as looked at my boyfriend, so I was no doubt suspicious of any incoming female texts he received. However, I was more insecure about myself then and I had every reason not to trust him. He was the typical jock who had a reputation for cheating and not respecting girls, but I was going out with him anyways because well, I was a stupid teenager. Now that I'm married (to someone else) I am the exact opposite. I have so much trust in my husband that I know I have nothing to worry about if he receives a message via text or facebook from another girl. Texting in today's day and age is a more casual way of communicating and has recently become the norm. I think the main problem is the effects this has on communicating in general but not so much disloyalty. Since it's so common for kids these days to communicate through this method, I don't think it's making such a statement when kids text or write o facebook walls of the opposite sex because in a way that's what's expected and the more affectionate language usage is part of their lingo. If someone's going to cheat, I think they would do it regardless of the text factor or facebook. Maybe it presents more temptations, but I don't think it's the leading cause. I also think friends with benefits is more of a hormonal thing that happens with all age group due to curiosity, fulfilling a need or not wanting to commit. I also think it is influenced by the media above all else when kids see it as a normal activity on their favorite television shows or movies. I don't think there's a strong correlation between easier access to casual communication and friends with benefits. I don't think one has to with the other. If the driving force is there, it's going to happen regardless. The texting might just help facilitate the process. I love your discussions!

Personally I think jealously is an internal issue that is dependent on a combination of the person’s genetic makeup and experience.

In highchool, I was constantly jealous of anyone who so much as looked at my boyfriend, so I was no doubt suspicious of any incoming female texts he received. However, I was more insecure about myself then and I had every reason not to trust him. He was the typical jock who had a reputation for cheating and not respecting girls, but I was going out with him anyways because well, I was a stupid teenager.

Now that I’m married (to someone else) I am the exact opposite. I have so much trust in my husband that I know I have nothing to worry about if he receives a message via text or facebook from another girl.

Texting in today’s day and age is a more casual way of communicating and has recently become the norm. I think the main problem is the effects this has on communicating in general but not so much disloyalty.
Since it’s so common for kids these days to communicate through this method, I don’t think it’s making such a statement when kids text or write o facebook walls of the opposite sex because in a way that’s what’s expected and the more affectionate language usage is part of their lingo.

If someone’s going to cheat, I think they would do it regardless of the text factor or facebook. Maybe it presents more temptations, but I don’t think it’s the leading cause.

I also think friends with benefits is more of a hormonal thing that happens with all age group due to curiosity, fulfilling a need or not wanting to commit. I also think it is influenced by the media above all else when kids see it as a normal activity on their favorite television shows or movies.

I don’t think there’s a strong correlation between easier access to casual communication and friends with benefits. I don’t think one has to with the other. If the driving force is there, it’s going to happen regardless. The texting might just help facilitate the process.

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