Comments on: Teens and their friends, or I mean their ‘lovers’

By: vanita

vanita — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 14:54:55 +0000

i can’t tell you how the “wifey” reference tics me off. My 12 year old was talking about a girl one day and I asked “who’s that?” Without thinking, her answer was my “wifey”. I asked her if she liked girls now. She said no and I told her we’d have to talk about this one day soon, not now, cause I’m speechless. That was a week ago. I’m just not sure what I have to say to her. I’m still shocked. I’m not even sure how to put my feeling on the matter into words.
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By: missy

missy — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:29:25 +0000

I think it’s a way to get attention – make yourself stand out. Make people notice you. Girls want a way to position themselves as the (insert an adjective) One, so that they are noticed. I’m seeing it at the pool this summer. Searching for identity – so not fun at this age. I feel badly for them and my own girls – even though they have a ways to go.
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By: Aimee

Aimee — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 22:21:20 +0000

I teach 7th and 8th graders. I know most of them have facebook pages. A few of their parents are friends with them and know what is going on, but many do not. When my daughter gets to that I age I will definitely be her friend on fb if it’s still around…. So I think that was a great choice on your part. I see a lot of their “strange” behaviors at school on a daily basis in real life. They aren’t as open about it at school as they are online, but I’ve seen some of it. The are all desperate for attention….we were at their age too, but we just had different ways of trying to get the attention. I love this blog by the way.

By: Jessi

Jessi — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 01:37:12 +0000

Ya know, I was thinking about this not too long ago. Luckily, my boys are still little, so I don’t have an immediate need to freak, but my friends’ kids are starting to get old enough to delve into the social media world and a couple have made friend requests. When I see my niece and one of my gal pal’s boys getting “lover of the day” messages, I cringe. Am I getting prudish in my old age? I would have done it if these things were available when I was their age. I just don’t know. My plan is to invent a “nevergrowupinator” so that I won’t have to deal with this business. I’ll let you know when it hits the market!
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By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 05:33:49 +0000

You are seriously freaking me out.

Everytime I come over here, bam, just what we were talking about. Our son just turned 15, and wants to be on FB. We googled “what parents need to know about FB” and got some TREMENDOUS hints tips salvations!

Now, we feel confident.

The girl thingy thing? It’s to get the boys hot…they’ve heard how much it turns guys on to see girls do this.

I wish their parents would tell them it will come back to haunt them when they apply for that the 5K teacher position.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 05:14:33 +0000

I can personally attest that my sister (age 12) has only 3 siblings, not the 25 listed on her Facebook page. I’ve also had to make my father take risque/revealing photos of her down (that he hadn’t even noticed). I definitely think it’s about attention and being “loved” more than the next person. It all comes back to popularity and attention!

By: Swati

Swati — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 18:31:21 +0000

ACK – what!!??!! I am so not ready for this – my daughter is almost nine…my boyfriend’s daughter is 16 and she did let me “in” on her page…was shocked to see how scantily clad some girls are online!!

Thanks so much for coming by my blog during Naomi’s guest post – hope to see you again!

Swati

By: parentingadabsurdum

parentingadabsurdum — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 03:23:08 +0000

Oh, oy. I don’t know what’s up with the exhibitionism of teen girls, but it does bother me. I think it says a lot about their self-esteem, or lack of it, and I hope that we as parents are working as hard as we can to instil self respect in our boys and girls… it makes me so sad, honestly!
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By: AngieB

AngieB — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 16:36:36 +0000

I found your blog through Lady Blogger Tea Party, and I feel like I’ve hit the lottery! I’m pouring myself a big glass of sweet tea and reading through your archives this afternoon! My boys are 18 and 11 and all computers are in public areas of the house, FB page for the 18 year-old only, with both Mom and Dad as friends. Interestingly enough, many of his friends have friended me, and many of my friends’ children have friended me, as well as nieces and nephews. They all know I’m the FB police, I’m the one who will spot a bong in the background of a party pic they’re tagged in or pick up on a drug/alcohol/sex reference in a post or comment. I suppose they really do like having someone who will alert them when they’ve “crossed the line”. The kissy girl stuff I find a little worrisome, just because our society is so over-sexualized already I just don’t think girls or boys need any relationships to be MORE sexualized.
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By: mommymommymommy

mommymommymommy — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 14:47:55 +0000

Hmmm, never heard of ths girl experimenting thing…and I have a fifteen year old daughter!

My daughter is “marrried” to a friend of hers and has about twenty “children”. She is the “parent” of others. All in fun.

I “inbox” my daughter if I find something offensive, or if I see her online or in her room, I will tell her to delete it NOW (big mom voice). It is rare, but I tell her something I heard on TV- “Say it, forget it. Write it, regret it!”
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