It is a rite of childhood to get a phone when graduating grade school? When did this happen?
My daughter “graduated” grade school in June. Yup, grade school no more. Here she comes middle school. I remember the excitement of starting middle school. The biggest thing was that we would be changing classes. Many different teachers, lockers, big time now. Well, that is not enough now.
On the last day of grade school my daughter started getting the calls. Everyone and their brother was calling to spread their news about their new cell phone. Apparently a cell phone is par for the course when finishing grade school. A graduation present.
Not in this house.
I was sure to let my daughter know. Even though she kept hinting and asking.
Do 11 year olds really need cell phones? Heck no! What would an 11 year old need a cell phone for?
Emergencies? There is a phone in the school for that. Although most kids would not even know that.
How did we handle emergencies when we were eleven? We went to the office. There is still an office in the school. With a phone too!
I will admit it is very convenient to be able to reach your kid whenever need be. I finally gave in to the phone in the middle of 7th grade with my son. It had nothing to do with him wanting one. He knew how I felt about that and did not even try. Where I caved was for convenience. Yes, caved. And am not proud of it. During that year he was spending a lot of time after school for sports and clubs. I wanted to be able to reach him in case I needed to. I struggle with both sides of this reasoning. What did my parents do when I stayed after school? I certainly didn’t have a mini phone attached to me. Why should he? But…on the flip side. Here we are with the technology we have today, why not take full advantage of it?
I still feel I caved. The phone did indeed change him. It changed his social life. He would say for the better. I would have to question that. My advice would be to hold off as long as you can before ‘caving’. I will with my daughter. No 5th grade graduation present other than a big hug, kiss, and congratulation of a job well done.
How old was your kid when they got their cell phone?