We hear all over about how we ‘Americans’ need to do something about our kids and how they are lacking behind the rest of the world – Asia in particular. We are told that Asians have all the smarts that we need to have – the stereotype. Each year when I attend the beginning of the school year talk, the principal explains how the requirements have gone up and how we must work to keep each child ahead of the game. Sometimes I think in five years kids will be expected to read out of the womb.
Amy Chua’s book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother takes this just a bit further. If you haven’t heard the hype about this yet, the comments are flying wild all over about the rights and wrongs of her theory. Amy explains in her essay in The Wall Street Journal, Why Chinese moms are superior. She says many people wonder why they raise such superior kids.
Amy explains how her daughters were never allowed to do things like attend a sleepover, have play dates, be in school plays, watch TV or play computer games, choose their own activities, get any grade less than an A, and not be the number one student in every subject
She goes on to say, “Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, “Hey fatty—lose some weight.” By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of “health” and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self-image.”
She explains “Western Moms” as wishy-washy, insecure, and caught up too much in their’s child self esteem.
Can we say – EXTREME? Okay, so in a teeny weeny way I can get what she is saying – with a HUGE grain of salt. I will agree that over the years parents have become just a little too ‘soft’. So many kids basically rule their parents. Now, I don’t know if I can say that is just “Western Moms”. I actually know quite a few very strict moms who live not too far from me – AKA Western Moms.
We need rules, but we need to be parents too. Not authoritarians – our kids need more than that.
What good is a straight A genius that has no empathy?
What do you think? Are “Chinese Moms” superior to “Western Moms”? – I am shaking my head in disbelieve as I write that.
I sometimes think people just like to get others going – so if nothing else, it is pure entertainment.